Disappointment
Disappointment is often a product of confusion, created by an analysis of the breakup; overthinking comes to mind here. You can end up questioning why things didn’t work out in the way they should:
“What went wrong? Why did they do it? They said they loved me! Why would they let this end?”
Relationships take a lot of time and effort. You put so much into a relationship that when it ends due to a bad breakup, you can feel like you’ve almost thrown all your hard work away and wasted heaps of time. Despite this flawed thought, no time is ever wasted, and during this post, you’ll learn that heartbreaks come with great wisdom and opportunities for fulfilment.
Self-blame
It’s common for people to blame themselves for a bad breakup. You might say, “Maybe if I paid more attention to them, they wouldn’t have decided to leave me.”
You can come up with many reasons as to why things didn’t work out, but blaming yourself is never the answer. You possess attributes and qualities that are unique to you. Although you can always better yourself as a person, you should never make yourself feel small.
Some people are right for each other; others are not. Those that are right for each other establish a strong connection between them. If the connection is weak or someone has broken it, you can’t blame them. You wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t as strongly connected to you, as you are to them. And you can’t blame yourself or them, for it, either.
Anti-love
This is a very typical reaction from someone coming out of a bad breakup. I often hear people say, “Forget love, I don’t want to feel like this ever again!”
This thought stems from the tendency to assume that all relationships end badly and cause pain. If that’s what you think, that's what you’ll get! One or more relationships do not define all relationships. Don’t close the book on love; there are still so many pages to go! Have faith!







